Read if you feel like giving up..
You’re putting in the work.
Waking up early.
Reading books.
Building better habits.
Grinding day after day...
But nothing changes.
You start to wonder:
“Is this even working?”
“Am I just wasting my time?”
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
You’re going through the Emotional Cycle of Change.
The process of transformation that every successful person experiences.
From the excitement of beginning, to the challenges along the way, to finally seeing results.
Understanding it could be the difference between giving up and succeeding.
Let me break it down for you (with the help of my 10/10 art skills).
The 5 Stages of Change
Stage 1: Doing Nothing
At first, you’re just going through life on autopilot.
Wake up.
Go to work.
Scroll social media.
Repeat.
Why do most people stay on autopilot?
Your brain craves predictability.
Even if life isn’t great, it feels safer than the unknown.
Change requires mental energy.
Disrupting your routine feels overwhelming, so you avoid it.
Fear of failure.
Trying and failing seems worse than not trying at all.
What causes change?
Change happens when staying the same becomes unbearable.
For some, it’s hitting rock bottom.
A health scare.
A breakup.
Losing a job.
Suddenly, you have to change because the alternative is worse.
For others, it’s a slow build-up of dissatisfaction.
Nothing’s necessarily wrong and life feels “fine”…
but deep down, you know you’re capable of more.
The discomfort grows until you can’t ignore it anymore.
Some people are forced to change. Others choose to.
The question is:
Will you wait until you have no choice or take action now?
Stage 2: Acting Like a Winner
This is where things get exciting.
You’ve decided to make a change.
Suddenly, life feels full of possibility.
You’re hitting the gym.
Reading the books.
Working on that business.
For the first time, you feel in control.
Why does this stage feel so rewarding?
At first, your brain resists change.
When you start taking action, you push through that resistance.
Your brain creates new neural pathways, and the new habit becomes easier.
A new project.
A new workout.
DOPAMINE HIT
You’ve never been consistent with exercise.
But now you’ve gone to the gym 3 times in a week.
You’re finally doing what you always said you would.
IT FEELS INCREDIBLE
You know what happens after this stage?
Nothing…
Absolutely nothing.
This is where it gets difficult.
Stage 3: The Valley of Despair
This is the gap between acting like a winner and actually becoming one.
Where frustration, self-doubt, and impatience creep in.
“What if I’m not cut out for this?”
“Maybe this isn’t the right path for me.”
You start to wonder if it’s even worth it.
Most people quit here. Don’t.
KEEP GOING
You have to weather this stage.
It’s easy to believe your efforts have been wasted.
But if you keep at it…
Stage 4: Small Wins Start to Show
After struggling for so long, you notice:
Your habits feel easier.
Your skills improve.
Your mindset shifts.
These small wins are PROOF that the process works.
The consistent effort you’ve been putting in without seeing immediate results is starting to pay off.
This is the magic of persistence ✨
Stage 5: Success
You’ve made it.
You’re living the life you’ve worked hard for.
You no longer have to force yourself to wake up early, hit the gym, or focus on your goals.
These habits are now part of who you are.
Most people never get here.
Because most people quit too soon.
Why Most People Quit
Most people give up just before their breakthrough, in the Valley of Despair.
They assume nothing’s happening, so they stop.
But the only difference between success and failure?
Persistence through the hardest part.
You just have to trust the process.
In time, you’ll climb out of the pit, but only if you stick with it.
KEEP GOING
The Unrealistic Expectations Trap
We live in a world of instant gratification.
People expect results immediately.
They hit the gym for two weeks and expect CRAZY changes.
They post content for a month and expect CRAZY engagement.
Teenagers expect to make 10k/month in their first few months of business.
That is insanity.
Ambition is great, but at the start, you need to be realistic.
If you don’t set achievable expectations early on, frustration sets in.
You’ll struggle to leave the Valley of Despair.
You’ll get disappointed.
And you’ll quit.
“The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.”
How YOU Won’t Quit
Focus on your why.
Remind yourself why you’re doing this.
Are you improving your health to be there for your family?
Building a business to retire your parents?
Studying to land your dream job?
When the why is strong enough, you can endure any how.
Have you ever played Minecraft?
You start a new world, grab your wooden pickaxe, sword, basic armour, and immediately head out to explore.
You can still play the game…
you just won’t get very far.
You can’t fight the difficult mobs or mine diamonds.
You rushed and now you’re paying the price.
What if you took the time to gather resources, prepare properly, and upgrade your tools and armour?
Suddenly the game becomes easier.
You can make real progress.
Life is no different.
Without the right frameworks, you won’t get far.
Lay the foundations properly first.
Here’s where to start…
Mental Health 🧠: Stop letting anxiety take over your life.
Mindset 💭: Stop holding yourself back with negative thoughts.
Productivity 📈: Stop procrastinating and finally make progress.
Relationships 👫: Stop feeling disconnected from those around you.
Social skills 🗣️: Stop feeling awkward in every social situation.
Health 💪: Stop feeling tired all the time and lacking energy.
I’ve made it easy for you by putting all these resources in one place.
Frameworks, visuals, and actionable lessons to help you at every stage.
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The cost of inaction is far greater.
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Actionable Steps:
Write down where you are in the cycle:
Are you in the Valley of Despair?
Or just starting out?
This will give you clarity to move forward.
Set a timeframe for commitment, not for results.
Decide how long you’ll commit before even thinking about quitting.
Could be 30 days, 90 days, or a year.
Just don’t stop before then.
Progress takes time, but quitting guarantees failure.